For me as far as making changes to the .xml file… Try, try and try again LOL
Yes you can link to your Stand Alone MML from WDL with these two tags (between your tags) …
<fullVersionUrl>http://JaxWeather.net/mml/</fullVersionUrl>
<fullVersionLabel>MesoMaps</fullVersionLabel>
That places a button on your MML map in WDL that has the same Text as the second tag above has…
You can see if from my WDL:
http://jaxweather.net/flash/
Click the MesoMap button in WDL and then you will see a second button under the MML Lite Map…
-Bob